Essentially thats all there is to it.
Get a standard 40a relay (commonly used for auxiliary lighting) any good auto supply will have one.
This all takes place in the underhood electric center, remove the bracket (4- 14mm screws) and then pull the cover off, it has tabs that lock it down.
find the stud for post #1, take the ring terminal off and cut it and connect it to the #30 terminal on the relay. I usually put the in the open area towards the rear on the electrical box, rear of the panel.
connect #87 to the wire you just took off (this is the wire that goes to the trailer feed)
connect #86 to a good ground ( there is a screw under the panel that goes into the left fender to hold the base of the electrical center, you can tilt the panel and access it for a ground, I ususally put a star washer on it to get a good bite on the ring terminal)
using an ATM fuse tap I pulled a signal form the fuse marked "IGN E" its a 10a fuse and is only on whent he ignition is on.
tidy up all the wires and make sure nothing is pinched, check the plug for power before putting everything back, you should only have power to the trailer plug "12V +" when the truck is running now.
you will need :
40a relay
4 female spade terminals
2 ring terminals
approx 18" of 14ga wire
a few zip ties for tidying up your work
star washer for ground 5/16 size
sorry I dont have any pics of this, if anything is unclear feel free to PM me.
good luck...
Scott